Re: Pat Ritter. Books
Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2018 10:56 pm
'Confessions of an alcoholic' - Page 118:
Never before in his life had he been committed to success than he was at the present. He knew in his own mind he had to at least do it for himself and not to blame others for his failures, as he had done so in the past. He had to learn to ‘tell the truth’ about everything, which was difficult for him, because all throughout his life he constantly ‘blew out’ stories to make them more believable, so people would think better thoughts of him.
One of the advantages he possessed was being a good listener. His role as a counsellor enhanced this skill to be honed near to perfection, together with his past skills of problem solving learned as a detective. His job now was to listen to his own self and to solve his own problems. His only concern was sharing his feelings with others.
In the past when sharing his feelings, he had been constantly abused, but recently sharing his feelings with Ada, she made him feel safe and reassured. It was probably the first time in his life when he actually had fun in sharing his thoughts with someone he could trust without being ‘put down’. Being truthful and trustworthy with Ada, didn’t change over night. It was another six years before Ada would completely trust Bundy.
With time, their relationships strengthen and their love blossomed. Bundy felt safe and secure in telling Ada anything he wanted to without feeling insecure. She in turn shared secrets with him knowing completely these secrets were to remain between them and not to be shared by any other person.
‘To thy self be true’ he repeated over in his mind, each time he was tempted to ‘play games’ with people. Or, if he felt he was about to exaggerate, what he was about to say, he remembered his saying, ‘To thy self be true’. If the other person didn’t accept his word, he didn’t worry. He knew he was telling the truth and understood HE was the problem. Over time Bundy’s ‘self confidence’ improved.
To purchase this book: click here: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/7688:
Never before in his life had he been committed to success than he was at the present. He knew in his own mind he had to at least do it for himself and not to blame others for his failures, as he had done so in the past. He had to learn to ‘tell the truth’ about everything, which was difficult for him, because all throughout his life he constantly ‘blew out’ stories to make them more believable, so people would think better thoughts of him.
One of the advantages he possessed was being a good listener. His role as a counsellor enhanced this skill to be honed near to perfection, together with his past skills of problem solving learned as a detective. His job now was to listen to his own self and to solve his own problems. His only concern was sharing his feelings with others.
In the past when sharing his feelings, he had been constantly abused, but recently sharing his feelings with Ada, she made him feel safe and reassured. It was probably the first time in his life when he actually had fun in sharing his thoughts with someone he could trust without being ‘put down’. Being truthful and trustworthy with Ada, didn’t change over night. It was another six years before Ada would completely trust Bundy.
With time, their relationships strengthen and their love blossomed. Bundy felt safe and secure in telling Ada anything he wanted to without feeling insecure. She in turn shared secrets with him knowing completely these secrets were to remain between them and not to be shared by any other person.
‘To thy self be true’ he repeated over in his mind, each time he was tempted to ‘play games’ with people. Or, if he felt he was about to exaggerate, what he was about to say, he remembered his saying, ‘To thy self be true’. If the other person didn’t accept his word, he didn’t worry. He knew he was telling the truth and understood HE was the problem. Over time Bundy’s ‘self confidence’ improved.
To purchase this book: click here: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/7688: